“The type of choices you’ve made in your life is the result
of why you are where you are today.”
Richard Snowden
(The above quote is paraphrased by Danny DeVito in some film that I don’t recall.)
A very profound and true statement. Think about it, you are where you are today as a result of the sum choices you’ve made in life.
If you are not living the life you want, it’s the result of the choices you’ve made and the things you believe in. if you don’t have a better relationship, it’s because of what you chose to do and chose not to do.
Do you know someone who had a bad relationship with their spouse but improved it? If not, have you read of someone who improved their relationship? And if you still answered ‘no’ to the above questions, do you think that it is possible to improve your relationship, or even gain what you thought was a ‘lost love?’
If you still answered ‘no’ to the above, all I can say is that you think very negatively on society, or you are not well read. However, I’m assuming you know of those who have improved their relationships, just like there are millions who improved other problem areas in life.
I’m not saying that all relationships can be repaired, nor should they be repaired. But there are those who
should at least try to repair a bad relationship.
If you are in a situation, or know of someone who is that you truly care about, continue reading.
Let’s assume you are the one who would like to regain a ‘lost love’. You can do one of two steps:
1 – Read about those who have gained their ‘lost love,’ and find out how he or she did it.
2 – Examine if your X lover, spouse or partner is worth it.
Assume that you chose #1, what should you do? In all earnest, you should find out what happened that caused the problem. Was it you or her? Now, be honest and look at yourself through the eyes of your X and through the eyes of your friends. Is there something that you need to get straight in life? If it is, what is it?
After you identified what it is, read about those who had the same problem and find out what they did. Duplicate it, and you should have the same results. Remember, “Success leaves clues.” Likewise, “Failure leaves clues, too.”
There are many how have made up and repaired what they thought and what others thought was ‘un-repairable.’
Identify the mistakes and learn from them.
Identify the correct things to do and do them.
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Do you really want to improve your life or
are you just playing around?
The Three Door Approach ©
By Richard Snowden
Many people say they want to improve their life. For example, they say they want to improve their health. They seek out a person who is into alternative medicine, they buy a book, and they believe what it says, but what do they do about it?
Nothing!
Are they really serious?
No.
Are you such a person? Well, there are millions like you; however the smart ones do something about it.
People who are intelligent are no different. They know their field of study extremely well, so they are consider intelligent or even a genius. They know their field of study,
but they don’t know how to run their brains.
The Three Door Approach ©
A good practice of mine is to imagine three doors in my mind, each with a different situation for the challenge at hand.
You remember the show on TV many years ago where a person was to pick what do they wanted. I think the Host’s name was Monty Hall. Usually one was a bobby prize, another was something of less value, and another one was the real prize. The contestant knew this, but it was his decision to pick out what was best.
In the show the contestant had to take a chance.
Well, in real life you don’t—if you run this little scenario in your mind.
I created for self-examination for myself. One day I thought,
“There are choices in life and we should not just settle for the way things are. I know that there are others that have identical problems like me, and many of them found the solution, or at the very least made a better situation for themselves.”
I thought of three categories that people are usually in:
1 – They have a problem and they don’t do anything about it, or at the very least, continue to repeat what they’ve been doing. The result: no change in their life.
2 – Then there are those who make a little change, or do it for a little while. At the very most they make very little improvement in their lives. It’s like doing something (excuse the language) ‘half ass!”
3 – Finally, there are those who make great improvement in their situation or over come it completely.
In short—there are Doors 1, 2, and 3I labeled the Doors to make it simple and clear.
Door 1 – Continue where I am now
Door 2 – Half-ass improvement
Door 3 – The best solution
I said to myself,
“Which door do I want Richard?”
I made this a ‘no-brainer’, where it’s obvious which one I should choose—and the same for others. After all, who deliberately wants to lose? Who deliberately wants to make half-hearted changes? So why not deliberately choose the Door that will lead to success?
“How do I know that Door C is the best?”
Good question—it might be Door A or B! (Just joking! You make in your mind which one is the best, so for this example it will be Door C.)
First let me use the word ‘challenge’ instead of ‘problem,’ as this puts it in a better frame of reference for your mind.
Let me ask you these questions:
Have had a friend that had a challenge and over came it? (It doesn’t matter what kind it was.) Have you read of someone who had a difficult challenge and over came it?
Have you had some challenge in the past where you resolved it?
I’m sure you had friends, read of others and yourself overcoming difficult times in life. So why not for the challenge you now face. You don’t think that no one in the world had or has the challenge you have now? Come on now! Take time out and ask yourself this.
OK, now that you know either by hearing or intellectually that there have been people (perhaps millions of people) who had your problem and over came it. That means that you can, too.
In short, there is a Door 3 The best solution
I want you to take time out again and think of something in your life where you had a difficult challenge. What was it? How long did you have it? What did you do to overcome it, or at the least make it less of a challenge?
As you think back to the time when you had Challenge X, you did such-and-such.
Think about what you did, how you did it, how you over came it.
In short, you took ACTION.
Probably massive and corrective action. Think of how you found out what action to take. Think of how you felt when you over came you life-difficulty.
Of course you are glad that you no longer had the problem, and that you feel much better for it. Well, the same is true with whatever of life’s difficulties you now face.
The challenge you now face might be a big one, such as your health or your marriage. It might be a business related one, such as getting a higher ranking for your web page with the search engines.
Business Example
For our specific example in this article, I would like to address a business example. As you read, look for the principle involved. When you find this, you can apply this to any area of life and not just business.
You have a web page and you want a higher listing on the search engines such as with Google and Yahoo.
Door 1 where you can just continue to do what you’ve always done. The situation will remain the same. Thus, you’ll have the same problems and make the same complaints to any of your friends who will listen to you for the umpteenth time.
Door 2, where you do a little research, perhaps buy a book and read through it. You try this and that advice and you try it for a week. You give up and say, “Well, I got a little higher, but I’m still far, far behind where I would like to be.” You tell yourself, “I tried, but this program is no good.”
This is called the half-ass approach.
You might feel good about yourself for “trying” but have you really tried?
No.
Then there is Door 3. This is where you search the Internet for articles that are posted for free and read them. You look at the books that are available and judge by their right up on their web page if it is good or not. So you buy some books.
This is where you listen to those who’ve ‘been there, done that’ to improve you ranking in the search engines. You follow the steps, reap them and keep doing it until you get what you want.
Finally, like all the past challenges you faced, you over come this one, too. Now you have the same positive feeling of success and of a job well done.
This is The Best Solution.
The principle involved here included:
Research - You took action and not just read the books and heard the audio tapes, but put into action what you learned.
Action - You also continued to take corrective action.
Notice what worked - You noticed what worked continued. You also notice what didn’t work and made correction.
Mistakes in life do happen, they are part of life. But a mistake is not a mistake. It’s a lesson learned—IF you learn from it and press on. Better yet, learn from those who have been down that road, so you can speed up you success.
This is all part of better living, and making it the best life ever.
Conclusion – You continued until you came to your goal.
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